"A MAN'S JOB IS TO INSTILL CONFIDENCE IN HIS WOMAN. SO IF YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP UN-CONFIDENT YOUR MAN AIN'T SHIT! " 💯
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I'm very hesitant to post this. I probably won't, maybe I'll keep private, maybe I won't. But if you're reading this, I was triggered recently with, another beautiful plus size lady friend of mine situation, and has me thinking a lot about MY OWN BAD, pass experiences... 🤦🏽♀️I've been hurt, I've been disrespected, I've been FAT SHAMED by men, plenty times before! once by a guy I was beginning to date! I STILL THANK GOD TODAY I DODGED THAT BULLET! 🙌🏽🙏🏾💯 lol! I'd NEVER had a grown ass man make fun of me, call me out my name, He said to me "YOUR Fat, and disgusting! I'LL ONLY GIVE YOU A CHANCE. BITCH NOBODY WANTS YOU! SO WHAT YOU LOSING WEIGHT! YOU STILL FAT!" 🤦🏽♀️ That's just half of what he said! I remember word for word because, I wouldn't forget being disrespected like that! He also made me feel bad because I was still a virgin SMH WHO DOES SHIT LIKE THAT? Like still being a virgin at the age 22 was a bad thing! I was 22 years old! I still have the messages somewhere SMH... The shit that man said to me, haunted me! He also stalked me for years! HE ended up being A Women degrading PSYCHO! It was mental abuse! He was the WORST I'VE EVER CAME ACROSS. 💯I've dated a dude that seemed obsessed with "BBW" little did I know he loved us on the "DOWN LOW" SMH... He made me feel like I was just a fetish, or some shit! He wanted me to be his "BIG Freaky Fantasy" 🙄 I still can't believe there's still men that secretly date plus size women, not even date! Some just want us for SEX. Speaking of SEX... I had a ex tell me "YOU NOT SUPPOSED TO BE ON TOP, GET UP." the first time I'd "Attempted" that position with him since our relationship. I've sat on his lap plenty times before, and he had NEVER said nothing like that to me before. I thought, maybe I'm trippin' maybe, he don't mean it in that way... maybe it's the drugs his ass on? Something's wrong with him? Maybe it could be he's drunk? Or Maybe he's just not ready for all this fire! 🔥😛😂 but No, he meant it exactly how it sounds. He FAT SHAMED ME! 😩 which is a good thing he's a EX NOW. 🤷🏽♀️ Moral of this fucked up story is, DO NOT TOLERATE DISRESPECT! THAT'S NOT LOVE! My man is suppose to make me feel like, I'M FUCKING PERFECTION! FLAWED AND ALL! HE HAS TO BE LIKE, "ALL THIS MINE!" HE HAS TO BE PROUD OF ME! BECAUSE IF I'M WITH YOU, I REPRESENT YOU! I'M A REFLECTION OF YOU, YOU'RE A REFLECTION OF ME! SO NOW, I CHOOSE WISELY 💯 It may take a while for A KING TO FIND YOU QUEEN, BUT HE WILL! And he won't do or, say any of the bad things I've mentioned here on to YOU, or to ME. So GET ON TOP! And, be CONFIDENT! And he better make you feel SEXY AS FUCK! And YOU BETTER RIDE THAT MF FOR THEM 3 MINUTES Because, THAT'S ALL HE'LL BE ABLE TO TAKE 😛😂💯❤️👑
#LOVEYOURSELF!
Xo
First and foremost I'd like to say that, you are BEAUTIFUL and deserved to be worshipped as the Queen you are! When a MAN says he loves you, that means he loves you inside and out, behind closed doors and out in the open, in the streets and ESPECIALLY in the sheets! These dudes today treat BBWs like they're here to take the abuse for their own insecurities, because they're failures and losers that aren't confident in themselves, so they get mad at the beautiful plus sized women that are confident n got that swag. If nothing else, I see you and I believe in you. So do yo thang mama n have fun doing it.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for being open and honest. Thank you for being vulnerable and strong at the same time. I know that there are others that need to read this, hear about some of your experiences and gather strength from them.
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